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Bachelorette 5’s Jillian Harris will pick from 30 men, is irritated by questions about her sex life

Bachelorette 5’s Jillian Harris will pick from 30 men, is irritated by questions about her sex life

The Bachelorette 5 debuts tonight at 9 p.m. ET, and stars Jillian Harris, who was rejected during the last Bachelor by Jason Mesnick but the producers’ second choice after Molly, another Jason dumpee.

She’ll have 30 apparently all-white bachelors to choose from, burn through, and eventually dump. That’s the largest number of bachelors or bachelorettes in the series’ history, and ABC said in an announcement that five will show up late to “crash the party.”

The show is continuing its bizarrely sexist tradition of leaving the ultimate proposal up to the male suitors so they can reclaim their masculinity after having let a woman make potentially humiliating decisions all season long.

ABC’s press release highlights that, saying, “At the end of the journey, the Bachelorette may quite possibly have found true love. But the big question is: After all of this, will he pop the question, and will she say yes?”

Despite handing her dating life over to reality show producers, Jillian isn’t quite into the groove of having her intimate moments dissected and discussed.

Talking to reporters to promote the new season, she was asked how far she went with Jason Mesnick during The Bachelor. Jillian’s horrified reply, according to’s transcript:

“I think that’s the most inappropriate question ever. I’m normally a very open girl. Anyone can assume that if we went into a hot tub and had a steamy makeout session, you can assume we quote, unquote, ‘did it.’ Even if I had or hadn’t, I don’t think that’s a question that should be asked. I think being a 30-year-old grown woman … people can look at me and who I am as a person, and they are entitled to their opinion. Let’s say I had slept with Jason, I don’t think that’s anybody’s business.”

You go, girl: It’s absolutely nobody’s business what you do during a popular prime-time network television series. No one’s.

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