Bachelor wants people to propose on TV, but only if they’re sure their partner will say yes

ABC is offering couples a chance to propose on national TV as part of The Bachelor, if a couple wants to start their life together on a show that mostly produces failed relationships and broken engagements. Even better, this will happen during the season that brings back Brad Womack, whose first appearance on the show ended with him rejecting both women.

For Marry Me Monday promotion, ABC says, “Brad Womack is still looking for his significant other, but if you’ve already found yours we have the perfect proposal opportunity for you! Tell us how and why you want to propose to your significant other and you could have the chance to pop the question during an upcoming episode of ABC’S THE BACHELOR!”

Applications are due Dec. 27, and ABC says that only those “involved in a long-term, committed relationship which you realistically envision will lead to marriage or a civil union in the near future” may apply, which certainly leaves open the possibility that a same-sex couple could apply and win.

Without a hint of recognition of how ironic this is, the second sentence in the rules insists, in all caps and bold: “DO NOT SUBMIT AN APPLICATION IF YOU ARE NOT CONFIDENT THAT YOUR PARTNER SHARES YOUR VIEWS ABOUT THE FUTURE AND NATURE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.”

This disclaimer just highlights the absurdity of the whole proposal tradition, which doesn’t emphasize equality in the relationship but instead imagines a lifelong relationship should start with one person making a critically important decision without consulting the other one first. How about deciding to get married together?

And of course, it’s totally unimaginable that one could watch a televised proposal between people who are not confident about how their potential partner feels about the future and nature of a relationship formed on a reality show best known for not forming successful relationships.

Surprisingly, man not eaten alive on Eaten Alive

Eaten Alive

Discovery Channel’s happy family holiday special Eaten Alive aired Sunday, rewarding viewers for their two full hours of viewing by ensuring that they spent quality time in the company of others instead of wasting that time doing something else that might not have been as satisfying, such as buying things that have labels which accurately reflect their contents.


Winter 2015 reality TV debut schedule

winter 2015 reality TV schedule

Mark your calendars with all these upcoming reality TV show debuts, including Celebrity Apprentice, The Bachelor, and another season of MasterChef Junior, all of which kick off in early January.

There are also 20+ shows debuting in December--including the one-off return of The Sing Off. No winter break for reality TV.

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