Jim Verraros getting married Sunday to a man he met on MySpace

If you’re holding on to a reality star crush and wondering if you should just go for it and send them a message on MySpace or Facebook or Twitter or FacespaceTwitplace, give it a shot: Communicating with an American Idol star worked for Bill Brennan, who’s marrying first-season finalist Jim Verraros this weekend.

On their wedding web site, Jim’s about-to-be husband Bill Brennan, who’s 43, explains how they met on MySpace four years ago: “I can tell you that when I sent a message to Jim’s MySpace account, I thought based on his First Season of American Idol fame and the fact that he was an actor and recording artist, that I would never get a response or perhaps hear from his ‘management’ or ‘handlers’ with some sort of generic “fan” message. I mean he did have 10,000 friends!! But to my surprise, I heard back from Jim in an hour or two and we somehow connected immediately. We would soon find out that our lives and pasts were in some way running in parallel universes, but in different decades. And we lived only 20 minutes apart.”

Jim, who was the first American Idol to come out as gay (although he came out well after the show aired), adds to the story, “[Because] I had gotten so many messages through Myspace, I wasn’t sure how to respond to Bill’s. I read over his profile first, of course (to see if we had anything in common, or if he was a weirdo) and most of what he had on his profile enticed me.” They met, and Jim writes, “Bill is quite honestly the most loving, loyal, funny, warm, personable, honest and caring human being I’ve ever met and because of his years, I’ve been able to learn and grow so much as a person since we’ve been together.”

They’re having their ceremony in Illinois, where gay marriage isn’t legal. Jim writes, “I knew with Bill that I wanted to ‘marry,’ him. I put ‘marry,’ only because, sadly it isn’t legal in Illinois yet, but we’re hopeful that the time is near.”

Jim Verraros & Bill Brennan [MyWedding]

Surprisingly, man not eaten alive on Eaten Alive

Eaten Alive

Discovery Channel’s happy family holiday special Eaten Alive aired Sunday, rewarding viewers for their two full hours of viewing by ensuring that they spent quality time in the company of others instead of wasting that time doing something else that might not have been as satisfying, such as buying things that have labels which accurately reflect their contents.

Winter 2015 reality TV debut schedule

winter 2015 reality TV schedule

Mark your calendars with all these upcoming reality TV show debuts, including Celebrity Apprentice, The Bachelor, and another season of MasterChef Junior, all of which kick off in early January.

There are also 20+ shows debuting in December--including the one-off return of The Sing Off. No winter break for reality TV.

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